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Jesse Sherer asked:

Have you ever wanted to influence the mind of another person in order to persuade them? I don’t recommend doing this for harmful purposes, but it is certainly possible. I will go through a few techniques for you to try out today.

1. The most important fact to realize is that people care most about themselves. Anyone who realizes this will have an advantage on the rest of his or her associates. Most people are so busy thinking about themselves they pay no attention to who is influencing them. Realize others care more about themselves.

2. The second most important fact is that 90% (probably over 90%) of communication is done through nonverbal communication. Picture a nervous student giving a speech. They are self-conscious and entirely consumed with worrying about what others think, while the rest of the audience does not care, they are too busy worrying about themselves as well. Use your body language to display the message you are trying to convey.

3. Use the power of suggestion. Try this. Tell one friend or coworker how good they look three times throughout the day, you will notice them holding themselves better at the end of the day. Tell another friend or coworker that they look like they are getting sick. Tests have shown that after enough suggestions they will actually begin to feel sick (don’t do this one too much). Use suggestions to saturate the subconscious and influence others.

4. Drop clues through your language. If you want someone to get excited, use positive language and words that bring about excitement. Use powerful words for powerful results. Words like money, sex, death, birth, and power have strong connections to the subconscious of others. Direct others thoughts subconsciously by dropping clues through your language.

5. Use the silence to your advantage. People are generally uncomfortable with silence. Given the right moment, silence can be a powerful ally to help create the influence you desire. Give it a try. Next time you are facing a problem with someone, just give them a stare and a confident look, many times they will workout the problem on their own (parents have used this technique for years). Silence can be more powerful than sound.

Give each of these techniques a try. With practice, you will find yourself become a more powerful, attractive, and influential person in the eyes of others.

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Sherry Sims asked:




Did you ever consider trying hypnosis but didn’t know where to go?

Were you afraid that it might be too expensive?

Do you lead a busy life and find that you don’t always have enough time in a day to do all of the things that you would like to do?

If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, then this information is for you.

You can now get a wonderful hypnosis session in the privacy of your own home or office, at any time of the day or night, for just pennies a day. That’s right, just pennies a day.

And I’ll tell you how.

First, let me say that hypnosis is a powerful way to change your life. It gives YOU back the power to control all aspects of your life, naturally and permanently.

Hypnosis adjusts the way that the body and the mind automatically act and react to your life, successfully influencing all areas of your life.

By changing your internal programming to work with your goals, rather than working against them, you can achieve success, easily and effectively, with hypnosis.

And hypnosis is a pleasant, natural state of being. It feels good, and it’s relaxing and rejuvenating to the body and the mind.

Many people believe that it takes anywhere from twenty-one to thirty days to change a habit, permanently.

Personal one-on-one hypnosis sessions can cost up to several hundred dollars per session, so you can easily see how quickly that can add up.

Of course, there really is no price too high to pay to have a successful life.

But, there is another way. Hypnosis sessions are available online for instant download, at a fraction of the cost of an office visit.

With the option of trying hypnosis out through an online download, you can experience the power of hypnosis affordably, at a time and in a place that is comfortable and convenient for you.

And then you can use your downloaded hypnosis session every day for thirty days, or longer if you choose, to assist you in changing a habit or to help you to achieve other goals.

You may find that you love your hypnosis session downloads so much that you may decide to make them a permanent part of your own ongoing, personal self-growth program, listening to them daily.

Hypnosis works. It changes lives. Put YOUR life on automatic pilot for success, starting today.

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Al Perhacs asked:




Hypnotism, Hypnosis, or Mind control and the terms alike send are often alluring for many of us. Many of us relate to these terms though our knowledge about them from movies where villains are shown to control their subjects deviously by hypnotizing them.

Adding to this misconception are friends or acquaintances who boast of hypnotizing you.

Have you ever been hypnotized by a trained psychotherapist, not by just any friend who read few text from here and there? And had chosen you to apply his just learned skills only to result in mumbling a single lines repeatedly, “Oh just wait a moment, it will happen?”

Well that never happened, you see. Let us now take a close look at what these terms really mean.

Hypnosis

Hypnosis is essentially considered to be a mind control technique that involves psychotherapy which associates with mind and its working. Today hypnosis has been recognized by medical science and it main objective is to heal mind related problems and restore sanity if something is wrong. There is a long list of impediments that can be taken care of through hypnotism:

• Amnesia
• Pain in body
• Sleep related disorders.
• Identity loss
• Motivational therapy
• Psychological imbalance
• Personality disorder
• Removal of certain addictions such as smoking, drinking alcohol etc.

How Hypnosis is done?

Hypnosis is done on a person usually called a subject in the medical term by a trained specialist called hypnotist. A subject is prepared to relax in a comfortable position. The hypnotist then turns all his skills on his subject to induce him into the state of trance. A subject is given simple instructions. After 5-10 minutes generally, subject looks dozy. This is the first stage of hypnosis.

Further on, the hypnotist extends the modus operandi and makes the subject fall into a state where he is neither sleeping but not awaken as well. This essentially allows answers to come directly from the memory which is only possible when the subject is awake enough to reveal them.

Keys or Steps to Do Hypnotism

Hypnotism as it looks is not so simple. Few basic requirements such as Willingness and Co-operation of the subject, bond of trust between subject and hypnotist, trained background of the hypnotist, and most importantly the absence of pre considered notion about hypnotism are mandatory for its success.

Willingness and Cooperation of the subject

The subject’s degree of hypnotism is directly proportional with his or her willingness and cooperation. When a subject releases all barriers, then hypnotism becomes easier.

Some people believe that easy hypnotism is the sign of weak mindedness, but medical research suggests that it is all about the receptiveness of the mind. The mind which is easily hypnotized has more absorptive power.

Trust between Subject and Hypnotist

Usually people have fear or apprehension in mind about the hypnotist and hypnotism in general. They feel that their secrets can be extracted and used for blackmailing them. So the hypnotist has a huge responsibility of maintaining professional integrity.

Sound Technical Expertise of the Hypnotist

Quality of hypnotist marks quality of hypnosis. If the Hypnotist is the likeable figure and emanates warmth and love, then his work becomes easy. People are easily attracted to such qualities and let their mind loose.

Pre determined Result

People who are cynical in nature find hypnotism a mere deception because in their mind, they are already decided that they will not let themselves be influenced by what the hypnotist will say. The next step is up to you.

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Shezz P asked:




It is quite amazing to realise just how much your thoughts can affect every aspect of your life. The way that you think can drastically affect your life for either bad or good.

Unfortunately some people have developed a bad habit of thinking negatively and the more that they do it, the more that they do it. In other words – what you focus on expands. If you focus on negative things then negative things tend to keep on happening in your life.

Likewise, if you focus on positive things then positive things will tend to keep happening to you. It is like you draw certain things into your life by how you think.

A compulsive negative thinker will most often look at the bad side of every situation and never see any good in a situation. However, the same situation can be viewed completely differently by a positive thinker and therefore can result in a completely different, and more positive, outcome.

NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming can help you to change the way that you think. NLP can help a compulsive negative thinker to retrain their mind to start thinking more positively and to learn to see the positives in situations.

By changing the way that you think using Neuro Linguistic Programming you can make a huge difference to your life and become a much happier person – also making those around you much happier too.

If you have tried to improve your life and the way you think but just never seem to see any improvements, then NLP is definitely worth having a go. The techniques used are very quick and have great success rates. .

Give NLP a go today and start enjoying your life in a more positive way

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Nicole Schneider asked:




What is NLP, many people ask me.

NLP is hard to explain, because it is something that needs to be experienced.

I give a different answer every time. Most answers you give that have detail and a high level of accuracy, will be answered with a blank stare, and misunderstanding. I think it is important to use terms that people can relate to, even if you do run the risk of being a little vague, and using terms that are not so much less accurate though aren’t the official terminology. It is more important for people to have a general idea about what NLP is, than someone having no idea what you are talking about.

Here are elements in your answer you could consider:

1. General explanation using known terms that most people can relate to.

Example:
NLP is a toolbox of techniques and communication tools, taken from 3 among the most successful and capable American psychologists, years ahead of their time. They had an extraordinary high success rate, were extremely effective and created solutions or improvements much faster than their counterparts. This makes NLP the psychology of what works, and of advanced interpersonal communication.

I am may throw in “working with unconscious processes of the mind” or “we all have a different subjective experience, this is what NLP works with.” Depends on the person.

If anyone asks about the 3 psychotherapists: Virginia Satir (renowned for her extraordinary skill and success in family therapy), Fritz Perls (father of gestalt therapy), Milton H. Erickson (father of modern day hypnotherapy and renowned psychotherapist.)

2. Where can NLP be applied:

Examples: coaching, therapy, education, business, interpersonal relationships, health, wellness, any areas where excellence and success are required.

3. Explain what NLP is not:

NLP works with processes of the unconscious mind, making it different from traditional (dare I say old fashioned) psychology where it is more about the conscious mind. Many (definitely not all) psychologists take a talk therapy approach, where you talk about your past and your problems. Though this can be cathardic for some people, for many people it takes a long time to feel better, to achieve success and talking about problems makes most people feel bad. For example in traditional talk therapy it takes more than 20 sessions (of mental anguish) to resolve a phobia, while NLP has a much higher success rate with doing so in 10 minutes or less. NLP is about directing the brain “here” instead of “there.” Where “here” is state of excitement, excellence, motivation, happiness, confidence, self love etc. And “there” are states that are the opposite of those. Instead of talking about problems, you talk about solutions, and use special patterns and techniques to change the way your brain codes subjective experience and information.

When someone asks about coding information in the brain, use as an example a bank robbery with 10 witnesses, each have a different account of what happened.

4. Using metaphors

Example:

The brain is a like big and complicated computer. Our mind is like software installed on that computer. Most of us have software installed of which the programming sometimes cause us to feel insecure, poor learners, incapable, unmotivated, afraid or even phobic. NLP helps you work upgrading this software, to feel confident, capable, motivated and help you achieve any goal strategically.

5. Using examples that people can relate to:

Example:

To someone with a fear of public speaking: for instance there are several NLP techniques, that will resolve your fear of public speaking, and feel confident, motivated and capable instead.

To a business person: NLP helps you set goals, achieve excellence, enhance your skills, adopt skills of people you think are good, become a master communicator, and achieve a high level of understanding of verbal -and non-verbal communication.

To someone with relationship problems: NLP helps you understand how people work, and how people communicate differently. Understanding that will give you a great insight as to how to communicate to your partner. And communicating together in a more effective way, where you can understand each other.

To a teacher: NLP understands what students do inside their head. How do they store information? What strategies do they use to for instance spell really well? And how can you teach a bad speller the same strategy or process a good speller uses? How do you teach and speak to a student in order for them to understand you better, understand and retain information.

Someone who needs change in their life: NLP has a series of techniques that help you set goals, become more motivated, helps you achieve excellence in your new projects, build additional skills. And moves people from the effect side of their life, to being on the cause side of life. Techniques that move people from a state where they feel stuck, to a place where they are unstuck.

5. Mention techniques by name/outcome:

Fast phobia cure, trauma relief pattern, language for negotiation and getting a “”yes”, discovering root cause problems in someone’s past, technique where someone can learn to step in to feeling of excellence and confidence, technique that help you get rid of habits like nail biting or even smoking, techniques to motivate you to eat better and exercise more. Etc.

6. If you are an NLP Practitioner, let someone experience NLP. Or do a quick demonstration. Something simple like letting someone experience the difference is between association and dissociation.

There is no short answer really. If I have to give one, and I don’t want to get too many questions or dazed looks:

“NLP is a modern highly developed form of psychology. Psychological techniques that are highly effective, fast, and can be learned by anyone. It is the psychology of what works, and of advanced interpersonal communication.”

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Carol Pounds asked:




Do you believe subliminal hypnosis is mind control?

No more than the messages you receive when you view ads on television or hear music playing in the mall or department store.

You receive subliminal messages every day in order for someone else to get you to do something for their benefit.

The Coca-Cola Company was the first to use subliminal messages in 1957. Over some 27 showings of the film Picnic, they flashed imperceptible embedded images of “eat more popcorn” and “drink more coke” across the face of the actress Kim Novak.

The show “Iron Chef” was exposed for putting a 1/30 second McDonald’s ad on their show. It was invisible to the ***** eye; yet the instantaneous blip was there, ready to reside in your subconscious.

What were they trying to do? Influence you unknowingly to buy Macdonald’s!

What is a subliminal message and how does it affect you?

“Wikipedia” defines a subliminal message as a signal or message embedded in another medium, designed to pass below the normal limits of perception.

In other words, you don’t recognize the subliminal message with your conscious mind so it passes into your subconscious mind and may cause you to act a certain way at a later time.

We are exposed to subliminal messages many times in a day.

Have you ever been shopping in a department store for any period of time and realized that they are playing a certain type of music? Did you end up buying when you were just “looking”? I know I have.

I bet that store was using subliminal music in order to get you to spend money.

Do you listen to the radio? Watch television? Do you wonder why they play the same commercials over and over and over?

When you listen without really hearing, or hear messages multiple times, the messages you see and hear on the TV and radio go into your subconscious mind more readily.

Why not use subliminal techniques for your own benefit?

It’s easy.

If you want to remember something, you should read or study it right before you go to bed.

And better yet, listen to a recording of what you need to learn just before sleeping.

Whatever you hear will go into your subconscious even if you fall asleep.

Listen to it over and over again.

Advocates of subliminal messaging believe the power of subliminal influence is generated over time. So, the more you listen, the more powerful the messages will become to your subconscious.

Subliminal hypnosis does the same thing that commercial subliminal messages achieve, only for YOUR benefit, and not for the benefit of someone else.

Subliminal hypnosis gives you the ability to control your own mind with POSITIVE thoughts and positive changes you want to make.

A subliminal hypnosis recording simply sounds like relaxing music. The difference is that there is a message for self improvement embedded just below the audible level that programs your mind for positive change.

Some subliminal recordings use reverse speech. Some believe reverse speech speeds up the change process. The part of the brain that interprets reverse speech in subliminal messages seemingly bypasses the logical filtering process of the conscious mind.

In this way, the subconscious accepts reverse speech unchallenged.

I love subliminal recordings! Not only are they very relaxing, but it is an effortless way to begin and stay on a self-improvement program.

You can purchase subliminal recordings on almost any topic. And you can easily play them on your mp3 player or Ipod.

Do you want to make positive changes?

You can listen to subliminal hypnosis recordings any time of the day or night to reprogram your subconscious on order to achieve your goals.

Warning!

NEVER listen to a subliminal or hypnotic tape when you are driving or operating machinery.

Because these recordings are very relaxing, there is a danger of falling asleep and having an accident.

You can find more information about subliminal recordings on my website: http://www.achieve-with-hypnosis.com

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Alex Leguizamo asked:




Does hypnosis work to lose weight? If you are someone who has long been interested in losing weight and have tried several products and programs already but to no avail, then this question might have entered your mind already. Hypnosis appeals to many people because of the fact that it seems to require very minimal work. They think that, for sure, hypnosis requires significantly less effort and will power than working out on a gym or going on a diet. The thing is, many people are not aware of what hypnosis really is much less how it works. If you think you have tried everything already and would want to try hypnosis, then first consider the following information about hypnosis.

First to answer the question: Does hypnosis work to lose weight? If you are looking for a categorical answer you wouldn’t find that here. My safe answer would be that hypnosis can help one to lose weight. How you may ask? Well hypnosis can be used as a mind conditioning tool. And the mind plays a very important role in weight loss. In fact, the mind can spell the difference between success and failure if you are trying to lose weight.

Hypnosis alone though would not do much for a person’s weight loss goals. It must be coupled with concrete actions such as starting and sustaining a healthy and sensible diet and working out regularly. You cannot expect fat to melt away after attending a hypnosis session or two. It simply does not work that way. What it can do is influence your subconscious in such a way that it will compel your will and your body to perform actions that will lead to weight loss.

If you really want to try to lose weight by trying hypnosis then go ahead. If you do, then you can finally answer the question: Does hypnosis work to lose weight?

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Nicole Schneider asked:




Secondary gain in life coaching is what any beginning life coach comes across, and any experienced life coach has seen a thousand times before. It is sometimes amazing how clients are willing to spend a lot of money, on problems they don’t even want to get rid off. There are many reasons why people don’t want to solve their problems.

When the problem is solved:

1. They are required to take on additional responsibilities. These could even be responsibilities that all of us have, however due to a presenting problem your client didn’t have to take. Like getting a job, or getting out of bed!

2. Your client has to take some very difficult steps. Like a divorce, leaving a career, friendship, relationship, facing the world with having the problem.

3. Your client has to make life changes that require a lot of work. Like for instance going back to school, going back to work, loosing a lot of weight, getting in shape, quitting an addiction etc.

4. The client somehow gets something out of having the problem. And this one is absolutely key, no human being does something or stays somewhere unless on some level they get something out of it. This is something you need to anticipate as a life coach. Trying to fix a problem a client is trying to hold on to, is like trying to mop the floor with the faucet open.

So what do you do?

1. Find out the secondary gain, what does the client get out of keeping the problem, what is the positive intention.

2. Use powerful questioning to uncover what the secondary gain is. Example: “What does doing X, do for you?” “And what does having that do for you?”

3. Meeting the positive intention in better ways.

Example: Problem: A client says she wants to loose weight, yet keeps eating each time she feels bad. Secondary gain: Covering up bad emotions by eating.

Solution: In this case, you teach the client coping strategies, when she feels bad, she does something other then eating to fix the problem. Why does the client feel bad? That’s something that needs to be tackled and fixed. Getting the client to do something that makes her feel good about herself, instead of eating. When lonely, pick up the phone. When sad, do something that makes you happy. When bored, find something to do.

Another example: Problem: Client keeps cheating on his wife. Secondary gain: It makes him feel powerful, while he otherwise feel powerless particularly in his marriage.

Solution: Find ways how the client can feel powerful in the marriage, without cheating. There are often larger underlying reasons why people have large problems. To uncover these reasons requires powerful questioning. Sometimes a problem manifests itself already in childhood, and the client has no recollection of it. There are multiple coaching methodologies available to help you uncover this, such as NLP, timeline therapy, etc.

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Charles Brown asked:




A basketball coach has his players run through an unusual free throw practice. Each player stands at the free throw line without the basketball and practices making shots. In his mind, the player watches himself dribble the ball, crouch with bended knees, stand up, make the shot and watch the ball make a perfect arc from his fingertips through the net with a perfect “swoosh.” With his body, he makes all the same moves. He feels his body crouch with bended knees and make the shot with his arm at his side and feels the ball leave his fingertips perfectly. A cancer patient visualizes white blood cells attacking her tumor with little axes. The just chop, chop, chop away at the cancer cells. At the same time, she takes her hand and makes karate chops on the tumor area from the outside. Over and over again, she chops at the area and visualizes her white blood cells chopping away as well. A man who wants to start walking every day for exercise, but can’t seem to get himself out the door on a consistent basis, starts visualizing himself walking out doors, moving briskly, watching himself bounce with each step and enjoying the fresh air. At the same time, he also marches in place in his living room for about 60 seconds. While he is marching, he is feeling the sensations of his body in motion and feels energy flow through his body. A sales person stands in front of a mirror before a sales call, visualizing her customers reacting warmly to him, asking her interested questions, and smiling at her. She even visualizes colored waves of rapport and agreement coming from the customer toward him throughout the interview. All the while, she is using the mirror to straighten her posture, put an expression of confidence, enthusiasm, and warmth on her face. Only when the mirror shows her a sales person who is utterly dynamic and confident, is she done.

Each of these examples uses two neuro-linguistic programming, or NLP, tools to change a person’s state. These people are creating internal representations of their states with visualization, and they are using their physiology or movements (the karate chops, the simulated free throws and changing the way they look in front of the mirror).

Science has long recognized that the way move or position our bodies can affect how we feel. If you want to put yourself in a depressed state, just slump your shoulders forward, stare down, walk with a shuffle and bend your spine as if the weight of the world were upon you. Almost instantly you will feel down.

The body and the mind are not separate entities that can coexist and not impact the other. They are part of the same system and will work in harmony whether we want them to or not.

Now try the opposite physiology. Get out of a bad mood by standing up straight, lift your eyes upward as if just above the horizon, walk around the room as if you are the most confident person on the planet, stand in front of the mirror and watch as your ****** expressions change from gloomy to bold and energetic.

I suspect this is advice you’ve received from a parent or grandparent before, but it really works. Just spend a few moments re-creating a powerful state of good feelings and high energy. The actual feelings will quickly follow, they always do.

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Linda Ferguson asked:




NLP works from the presupposition that anything one person can do, another person can learn to do (providing it is something of which s/he is physically capable). The flip side of this presupposition is the idea that anything you can do successfully can become a pattern for success in new contexts.

As you consider this presupposition, you will notice that it contains other beliefs about human beings; it contains, for instance, the idea that we are resources for each other. Our world is more easily influenced because we are not alone in it. Not only do we learn from each other deliberately: we also pick up moods and states from each other.

The obvious way to use NLP to meet a challenge is to find someone who is successfully handling a similar challenge and model them – observe them with such acuity that you can do what they are doing and get the same result they are getting.

There is a catch. In order to model successfully, you will need to be able to identify with your model – to find ways in which you can think, feel and act alike. This is hard to do unless you are feeling resourceful. Too often, we look at models from the depths of our anxiety and stress and feel the gap is much too wide to cross. It’s not. But it does lead to the first step in the NLP strategy for handling challenges.

Begin by gaining access to more of your strengths, skills and capabilities. If you are not feeling resourceful, you are unlikely to be resourceful. Without strength, flexibility, innovation or a sense of fun, you are also unlikely to meet your challenge successfully. In order to become more resourceful than you are feeling, you will probably need the assistance of someone who is already feeling resourceful. A coach can do this for you – so can anyone who is having a really good day and is willing to make a connection with you.

Once you are beginning to feel better, work the good feelings. Begin by moving: when you get your physical body moving with strength and grace, your mind is tempted to follow suit. Walk as though you were already on top of the world – and if you need help to stay there, then walk like a friend who has his/her stuff together.

Using anchoring, you can chain good states together and apply them directly to the places where you are feeling challenged. The key is to be so thoroughly engaged in your resourceful self that you make the challenges more manageable when you integrate the positive anchors. That’s why you should never begin with the anchoring process. Always wait until you have easy access to strong representations of positive states. Then enjoy playing.

Then begin to tell yourself the story of your success. Since it hasn’t happened yet, work with the real stories of challenges you have successfully overcome. You can be your own best role model. Stories are always most natural and most powerful when they have a listener. The key to this stage is to find someone to listen to your stories of success.

By this point, you might well find that you do not have a challenge: just work to do. If the challenge is really new or really big, you might need to go find new learning in order to meet it successfully. You are now ready to do what you need to do. Either get to work, or find a model who has one or more of the pieces you are missing.

You can thoroughly enjoy identifying with your model now. Just as you will thoroughly enjoy telling the story of how you met this challenge – with NLP!

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