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Steve Bauer asked:




Sally emailed me asking me to clarify the distinctions of Process, Pattern and Content.

These three terms confuse beginning and advanced NLP students alike – chiefly the process/content distinction.

I’ll share with you my definition. It’s VERY likely for other trainers to disagree with it. Adopt it if you find it useful.

Pattern
In the context of NLP, a pattern is a predictable unit of behavioral sequence.

Now what the hell does that mean?

Gregory Bateson defines the pattern as follows in Steps To An Ecology of The Mind:

any aggregate of events or objects (e.g. a sequence of phonemes, a painting, or a frog or a culture) shall be said to contain a “redundancy” or a “pattern” if the aggregate can be divided in any way by a “slash mark” such that an observer perceiving only what is on one side of the slash mark can guess with better than random success, what is on the other side of the slash mark…. Or, again from the point of view of a cybernetic observer, the information available on one side of the slash will restrain) i.e. reduce the probability of) wrong guessing.OK, now that we have the jargon and the abstract out of the way, let’s try this in English.

Let’s say that you touch James’s hair and he gets angry. Hmmm, interesting… Then, you notice later that Tim touches James’s hair and he gets angry again. Wow, what’s going on here? Another time, Tara touches James’s hair and he gets angry again.

At this point, you’ve noticed a pattern. How can you tell? Because you can semi-accurately predict that anytime someone touches James’s hair, he gets angry.

That’s the structure of a pattern. Anytime x happens, y happens. Anytime someone touches James’s hair, James gets angry.

To use Bateson’s slash mark, it looks as follows: someone touches James’s hair/James gets angry.

Now, if you were to watch only half of the movie (someone touching James’s hair) and paused it, you could accurately predict the second half of the movie (James getting angry).

You’re surrounded by patterns. The chorus of a song is a pattern, which you can predict time and time again. You probably brush your teeth and dry your post-shower body in a pattern, knowing accurately what comes after each stroke.

Anytime x happens, y happens.

Process vs Content
Now on to the feud! Here we go…

Were John Grinder talking to you, he would undoubtedly argue that this IS the NLP distinction in therapy.

Once again, let’s hit an example to make this more obvious than Leonardo DiCaprio walking around in Uganda.

Karl needs therapy, according to him. The reason for this, he tells you, is that his father beat him when he was a kid.

This last piece of info is content.

A psychotherapist trained in most modalities would likely dabble into content to perform an intervention. This would involve exploring Karl’s relationship to his father, reliving some of the beatings, trying to understand why his father beat him the way he did, etc.

Enters the NLP-trained therapist.

This therapist will explore how Karl represents the problem situation. In other words, what does Karl do to make himself feel bad? Does he make pictures? Does he talk to himself? Does he hear certain voices? Does he experience kinesthetic sensations?

Once she has identified that Karl talks to himself and then feels bad, the therapist will explore HOW SPECIFICALLY he talks to himself. How loud is the voice? Where in space does it come from?

Then, the therapist will guide Karl in altering the way he talks to himself. He will lower the volume. He will move the voice around in space. He will accelerate the voice. He will change its pitch. All the way until Karl notices that he no longer feels bad when he continues telling himself the exact same things he used to.

In other words, Karl is now processing the content differently.

NLP-trained therapists can perform an intervention on a client absolutely blind to the content, that is, without having a clue as to what the issue is. You can read many examples of this in Frogs Into Princes.

So content is what happens. Process is the way we represent what happens.

Summing it all up
There you have it. Process, Pattern and Content.

Process: The way we represent what happens.

Pattern: Anytime x happens, most likely y will happen.

Content: What happens.

Simple, huh?

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Joe Knight asked:




Basically it is techniques for mind, body and spirit. In a nut shell it is about your self talk.Whether you know it or not your brain is all ways talking to you.

Neuro Linguistic Programming (N.L.P.)can help you make sure your self talk is positive and help you have a positive mind set.
This self talk could be the difference between success and failure,and how you handle setbacks. Your self talk will be the difference between whether you let the adversities in your life get you down, or making you strive forward and over come what ever set backs that you may encounter!

It will decide if you are the type of person who see the glass have full or half empty! Every successful person I can almost guarantee you that had positive self talk, whether they did it subconscious , or consciously. From Bill Gates to Arnold Schwarznegger ,They knew how to put themselves in the right mindset to reach their goals and this is what Neuro Linguistic Programing helps you learn to do.

Every self help coach now teaches some form of N.L.P. All self help coaches now know that positive self talk is the fastest way a person can gain a positive mindset to help achieve their goals in life. The only way any self help and self change can take place is if you mind is total convinced you can achieve what your are striving for and to become successful you absolutely need to totally believe you can!

With out a positive self talk you cannot achieve your goals in life. Some people seem to have this positive self talk going on instinctively, others(like myself) have to learn to bring about this kind of mindset.

That is why we read all those self help books,and take all those self help courses,to try to learn how we can get are conscious mind to tell are subconscious mind we can improve, we can become more, we can achieve our l dreams, our life mission and life passion! So remember, before you can self improve,you need to learn how to have positive self talk, and the way to do this is threw “Neuro Linguistic Programing”!

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Dianne Squires asked:




Success Begins in Your Mind.

If you are having problems attracting the Law of Attraction, it could be the negative self talk and doubt constantly playing in your subconscious mind.

If you mindset is negative, that’s what you going to get. But…if you have a positive outlook and believe good things happen, then you are half way there.

Most people have a negative voice inside of them that constantly nags at them, constantly doubting.

People who are rich think differently about money than people who are poor. Its not that anything is any different for the people without money, they just don’t believe its easy and doubt on a very deep level that it is going to work for them. Whereas rich people believe its easy.

But its very easy to change from failure to success. When you think the way rich people do, you Attract money the way they do.

The easiest and fastest way to change your thinking is with hypnosis. Hypnosis works by changing the thoughts that play in your subconscious mind. Using self hypnosis audios is the easiest way, you just download the audio to your mp3 player or computer and just relax whilst listening to the powerful positive messages that are absorbed subliminally. This kind of hypnosis is very powerful and helps to change the constant negative thinking that has built up over the years.

If you are serious about tapping into the Law of Attraction, here are a few things you should consider:

• Don’t listen to radio and television news with its constant negativity.
• Avoid negative people who **** the energy out of you.
• Try to associate with people who are more successful than you.
• Read positive books, and keep them handy.
• Avoid negative gossip articles and websites, don’t engage in negative gossip about others.

Its all about our thoughts and our thinking and keeping it positive. So be careful what you think.

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Bertil Hjert asked:

A well trained mind will always provide you great opportunities to work better and achieve a lot of success in life. The wise men have always said that “the mind is like a bad neighborhood-never go there by yourself”. In case, your mind has not been trained, it would definitely prove to be a bad neighborhood.

Fortunately, there are several techniques available these days to train your mind such as meditation, NLP etc.

You must remember that our minds keep absorbing several thoughts, responses and behaviors from the environment around us. These entire patterns may affect us in different ways. There are times when most of the thoughts we tend to absorb don’t go well with our goals. Hence it becomes very necessary to train our minds in order to give out equal response to what we require.

If you don’t have a cure of what should be done in order to train our minds, don’t worry. Here are some great tips on what should be done in order to achieve a well trained mind:

- Segment intending

This is a simple and best way to train your mind. This process will also help you to accomplish a lot on a daily basis.

Here is how to go about it:

- Step one

You need to decide the time period for your segment. Now, this time period can be of any length. However, remember that it should not exceed more than a half or one hour.

- Step two

Now, decide on your aim for that particular segment. This can be a whole list of tasks that you want to accomplish, a state of being or may be both if you wish.

- Step three

As soon as the segment start time arrives, you need to start your segment no matter what. Don’t have any second thoughts.

- Step four

In case, you get interrupted during your segment, you must decide whether the interruption is significant enough for your segment. In case, it is not just ignore it and keep up the good work. You need to keep your segment work going.

Practice all the above mentioned steps throughout the day. Remember that each segment that you practice is a kind of training period for your mind. Here, your mind is learning to help you in whatever task you undertake. The technique of segment intending also works with a friend. You can easily keep yourself on track if there is a friend helps you to do so. You would definitely notice that your mind is getting more responsive.

Of course, there are other techniques you can follow to train your mind such as stimulating your brain via doing activities that fill your mind with enthusiasm, doing regular physical activities, focusing on memorizing things, reading books on varied topics, adopting a creative hobby, learning new words, discussing on various topics to exercise brain, popping out ideas, developing an aim in life, sleeping well and using the invincible power of medication.

As you start enhancing your brain power, you will identify a new and improvised confidence in yourself.

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Jesse Sherer asked:

Have you ever wanted to influence the mind of another person in order to persuade them? I don’t recommend doing this for harmful purposes, but it is certainly possible. I will go through a few techniques for you to try out today.

1. The most important fact to realize is that people care most about themselves. Anyone who realizes this will have an advantage on the rest of his or her associates. Most people are so busy thinking about themselves they pay no attention to who is influencing them. Realize others care more about themselves.

2. The second most important fact is that 90% (probably over 90%) of communication is done through nonverbal communication. Picture a nervous student giving a speech. They are self-conscious and entirely consumed with worrying about what others think, while the rest of the audience does not care, they are too busy worrying about themselves as well. Use your body language to display the message you are trying to convey.

3. Use the power of suggestion. Try this. Tell one friend or coworker how good they look three times throughout the day, you will notice them holding themselves better at the end of the day. Tell another friend or coworker that they look like they are getting sick. Tests have shown that after enough suggestions they will actually begin to feel sick (don’t do this one too much). Use suggestions to saturate the subconscious and influence others.

4. Drop clues through your language. If you want someone to get excited, use positive language and words that bring about excitement. Use powerful words for powerful results. Words like money, sex, death, birth, and power have strong connections to the subconscious of others. Direct others thoughts subconsciously by dropping clues through your language.

5. Use the silence to your advantage. People are generally uncomfortable with silence. Given the right moment, silence can be a powerful ally to help create the influence you desire. Give it a try. Next time you are facing a problem with someone, just give them a stare and a confident look, many times they will workout the problem on their own (parents have used this technique for years). Silence can be more powerful than sound.

Give each of these techniques a try. With practice, you will find yourself become a more powerful, attractive, and influential person in the eyes of others.

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Sherry Sims asked:




Did you ever consider trying hypnosis but didn’t know where to go?

Were you afraid that it might be too expensive?

Do you lead a busy life and find that you don’t always have enough time in a day to do all of the things that you would like to do?

If you’ve answered yes to any of these questions, then this information is for you.

You can now get a wonderful hypnosis session in the privacy of your own home or office, at any time of the day or night, for just pennies a day. That’s right, just pennies a day.

And I’ll tell you how.

First, let me say that hypnosis is a powerful way to change your life. It gives YOU back the power to control all aspects of your life, naturally and permanently.

Hypnosis adjusts the way that the body and the mind automatically act and react to your life, successfully influencing all areas of your life.

By changing your internal programming to work with your goals, rather than working against them, you can achieve success, easily and effectively, with hypnosis.

And hypnosis is a pleasant, natural state of being. It feels good, and it’s relaxing and rejuvenating to the body and the mind.

Many people believe that it takes anywhere from twenty-one to thirty days to change a habit, permanently.

Personal one-on-one hypnosis sessions can cost up to several hundred dollars per session, so you can easily see how quickly that can add up.

Of course, there really is no price too high to pay to have a successful life.

But, there is another way. Hypnosis sessions are available online for instant download, at a fraction of the cost of an office visit.

With the option of trying hypnosis out through an online download, you can experience the power of hypnosis affordably, at a time and in a place that is comfortable and convenient for you.

And then you can use your downloaded hypnosis session every day for thirty days, or longer if you choose, to assist you in changing a habit or to help you to achieve other goals.

You may find that you love your hypnosis session downloads so much that you may decide to make them a permanent part of your own ongoing, personal self-growth program, listening to them daily.

Hypnosis works. It changes lives. Put YOUR life on automatic pilot for success, starting today.

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Al Perhacs asked:




Hypnotism, Hypnosis, or Mind control and the terms alike send are often alluring for many of us. Many of us relate to these terms though our knowledge about them from movies where villains are shown to control their subjects deviously by hypnotizing them.

Adding to this misconception are friends or acquaintances who boast of hypnotizing you.

Have you ever been hypnotized by a trained psychotherapist, not by just any friend who read few text from here and there? And had chosen you to apply his just learned skills only to result in mumbling a single lines repeatedly, “Oh just wait a moment, it will happen?”

Well that never happened, you see. Let us now take a close look at what these terms really mean.

Hypnosis

Hypnosis is essentially considered to be a mind control technique that involves psychotherapy which associates with mind and its working. Today hypnosis has been recognized by medical science and it main objective is to heal mind related problems and restore sanity if something is wrong. There is a long list of impediments that can be taken care of through hypnotism:

• Amnesia
• Pain in body
• Sleep related disorders.
• Identity loss
• Motivational therapy
• Psychological imbalance
• Personality disorder
• Removal of certain addictions such as smoking, drinking alcohol etc.

How Hypnosis is done?

Hypnosis is done on a person usually called a subject in the medical term by a trained specialist called hypnotist. A subject is prepared to relax in a comfortable position. The hypnotist then turns all his skills on his subject to induce him into the state of trance. A subject is given simple instructions. After 5-10 minutes generally, subject looks dozy. This is the first stage of hypnosis.

Further on, the hypnotist extends the modus operandi and makes the subject fall into a state where he is neither sleeping but not awaken as well. This essentially allows answers to come directly from the memory which is only possible when the subject is awake enough to reveal them.

Keys or Steps to Do Hypnotism

Hypnotism as it looks is not so simple. Few basic requirements such as Willingness and Co-operation of the subject, bond of trust between subject and hypnotist, trained background of the hypnotist, and most importantly the absence of pre considered notion about hypnotism are mandatory for its success.

Willingness and Cooperation of the subject

The subject’s degree of hypnotism is directly proportional with his or her willingness and cooperation. When a subject releases all barriers, then hypnotism becomes easier.

Some people believe that easy hypnotism is the sign of weak mindedness, but medical research suggests that it is all about the receptiveness of the mind. The mind which is easily hypnotized has more absorptive power.

Trust between Subject and Hypnotist

Usually people have fear or apprehension in mind about the hypnotist and hypnotism in general. They feel that their secrets can be extracted and used for blackmailing them. So the hypnotist has a huge responsibility of maintaining professional integrity.

Sound Technical Expertise of the Hypnotist

Quality of hypnotist marks quality of hypnosis. If the Hypnotist is the likeable figure and emanates warmth and love, then his work becomes easy. People are easily attracted to such qualities and let their mind loose.

Pre determined Result

People who are cynical in nature find hypnotism a mere deception because in their mind, they are already decided that they will not let themselves be influenced by what the hypnotist will say. The next step is up to you.

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Shezz P asked:




It is quite amazing to realise just how much your thoughts can affect every aspect of your life. The way that you think can drastically affect your life for either bad or good.

Unfortunately some people have developed a bad habit of thinking negatively and the more that they do it, the more that they do it. In other words – what you focus on expands. If you focus on negative things then negative things tend to keep on happening in your life.

Likewise, if you focus on positive things then positive things will tend to keep happening to you. It is like you draw certain things into your life by how you think.

A compulsive negative thinker will most often look at the bad side of every situation and never see any good in a situation. However, the same situation can be viewed completely differently by a positive thinker and therefore can result in a completely different, and more positive, outcome.

NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming can help you to change the way that you think. NLP can help a compulsive negative thinker to retrain their mind to start thinking more positively and to learn to see the positives in situations.

By changing the way that you think using Neuro Linguistic Programming you can make a huge difference to your life and become a much happier person – also making those around you much happier too.

If you have tried to improve your life and the way you think but just never seem to see any improvements, then NLP is definitely worth having a go. The techniques used are very quick and have great success rates. .

Give NLP a go today and start enjoying your life in a more positive way

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Nicole Schneider asked:




What is NLP, many people ask me.

NLP is hard to explain, because it is something that needs to be experienced.

I give a different answer every time. Most answers you give that have detail and a high level of accuracy, will be answered with a blank stare, and misunderstanding. I think it is important to use terms that people can relate to, even if you do run the risk of being a little vague, and using terms that are not so much less accurate though aren’t the official terminology. It is more important for people to have a general idea about what NLP is, than someone having no idea what you are talking about.

Here are elements in your answer you could consider:

1. General explanation using known terms that most people can relate to.

Example:
NLP is a toolbox of techniques and communication tools, taken from 3 among the most successful and capable American psychologists, years ahead of their time. They had an extraordinary high success rate, were extremely effective and created solutions or improvements much faster than their counterparts. This makes NLP the psychology of what works, and of advanced interpersonal communication.

I am may throw in “working with unconscious processes of the mind” or “we all have a different subjective experience, this is what NLP works with.” Depends on the person.

If anyone asks about the 3 psychotherapists: Virginia Satir (renowned for her extraordinary skill and success in family therapy), Fritz Perls (father of gestalt therapy), Milton H. Erickson (father of modern day hypnotherapy and renowned psychotherapist.)

2. Where can NLP be applied:

Examples: coaching, therapy, education, business, interpersonal relationships, health, wellness, any areas where excellence and success are required.

3. Explain what NLP is not:

NLP works with processes of the unconscious mind, making it different from traditional (dare I say old fashioned) psychology where it is more about the conscious mind. Many (definitely not all) psychologists take a talk therapy approach, where you talk about your past and your problems. Though this can be cathardic for some people, for many people it takes a long time to feel better, to achieve success and talking about problems makes most people feel bad. For example in traditional talk therapy it takes more than 20 sessions (of mental anguish) to resolve a phobia, while NLP has a much higher success rate with doing so in 10 minutes or less. NLP is about directing the brain “here” instead of “there.” Where “here” is state of excitement, excellence, motivation, happiness, confidence, self love etc. And “there” are states that are the opposite of those. Instead of talking about problems, you talk about solutions, and use special patterns and techniques to change the way your brain codes subjective experience and information.

When someone asks about coding information in the brain, use as an example a bank robbery with 10 witnesses, each have a different account of what happened.

4. Using metaphors

Example:

The brain is a like big and complicated computer. Our mind is like software installed on that computer. Most of us have software installed of which the programming sometimes cause us to feel insecure, poor learners, incapable, unmotivated, afraid or even phobic. NLP helps you work upgrading this software, to feel confident, capable, motivated and help you achieve any goal strategically.

5. Using examples that people can relate to:

Example:

To someone with a fear of public speaking: for instance there are several NLP techniques, that will resolve your fear of public speaking, and feel confident, motivated and capable instead.

To a business person: NLP helps you set goals, achieve excellence, enhance your skills, adopt skills of people you think are good, become a master communicator, and achieve a high level of understanding of verbal -and non-verbal communication.

To someone with relationship problems: NLP helps you understand how people work, and how people communicate differently. Understanding that will give you a great insight as to how to communicate to your partner. And communicating together in a more effective way, where you can understand each other.

To a teacher: NLP understands what students do inside their head. How do they store information? What strategies do they use to for instance spell really well? And how can you teach a bad speller the same strategy or process a good speller uses? How do you teach and speak to a student in order for them to understand you better, understand and retain information.

Someone who needs change in their life: NLP has a series of techniques that help you set goals, become more motivated, helps you achieve excellence in your new projects, build additional skills. And moves people from the effect side of their life, to being on the cause side of life. Techniques that move people from a state where they feel stuck, to a place where they are unstuck.

5. Mention techniques by name/outcome:

Fast phobia cure, trauma relief pattern, language for negotiation and getting a “”yes”, discovering root cause problems in someone’s past, technique where someone can learn to step in to feeling of excellence and confidence, technique that help you get rid of habits like nail biting or even smoking, techniques to motivate you to eat better and exercise more. Etc.

6. If you are an NLP Practitioner, let someone experience NLP. Or do a quick demonstration. Something simple like letting someone experience the difference is between association and dissociation.

There is no short answer really. If I have to give one, and I don’t want to get too many questions or dazed looks:

“NLP is a modern highly developed form of psychology. Psychological techniques that are highly effective, fast, and can be learned by anyone. It is the psychology of what works, and of advanced interpersonal communication.”

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Carol Pounds asked:




Do you believe subliminal hypnosis is mind control?

No more than the messages you receive when you view ads on television or hear music playing in the mall or department store.

You receive subliminal messages every day in order for someone else to get you to do something for their benefit.

The Coca-Cola Company was the first to use subliminal messages in 1957. Over some 27 showings of the film Picnic, they flashed imperceptible embedded images of “eat more popcorn” and “drink more coke” across the face of the actress Kim Novak.

The show “Iron Chef” was exposed for putting a 1/30 second McDonald’s ad on their show. It was invisible to the ***** eye; yet the instantaneous blip was there, ready to reside in your subconscious.

What were they trying to do? Influence you unknowingly to buy Macdonald’s!

What is a subliminal message and how does it affect you?

“Wikipedia” defines a subliminal message as a signal or message embedded in another medium, designed to pass below the normal limits of perception.

In other words, you don’t recognize the subliminal message with your conscious mind so it passes into your subconscious mind and may cause you to act a certain way at a later time.

We are exposed to subliminal messages many times in a day.

Have you ever been shopping in a department store for any period of time and realized that they are playing a certain type of music? Did you end up buying when you were just “looking”? I know I have.

I bet that store was using subliminal music in order to get you to spend money.

Do you listen to the radio? Watch television? Do you wonder why they play the same commercials over and over and over?

When you listen without really hearing, or hear messages multiple times, the messages you see and hear on the TV and radio go into your subconscious mind more readily.

Why not use subliminal techniques for your own benefit?

It’s easy.

If you want to remember something, you should read or study it right before you go to bed.

And better yet, listen to a recording of what you need to learn just before sleeping.

Whatever you hear will go into your subconscious even if you fall asleep.

Listen to it over and over again.

Advocates of subliminal messaging believe the power of subliminal influence is generated over time. So, the more you listen, the more powerful the messages will become to your subconscious.

Subliminal hypnosis does the same thing that commercial subliminal messages achieve, only for YOUR benefit, and not for the benefit of someone else.

Subliminal hypnosis gives you the ability to control your own mind with POSITIVE thoughts and positive changes you want to make.

A subliminal hypnosis recording simply sounds like relaxing music. The difference is that there is a message for self improvement embedded just below the audible level that programs your mind for positive change.

Some subliminal recordings use reverse speech. Some believe reverse speech speeds up the change process. The part of the brain that interprets reverse speech in subliminal messages seemingly bypasses the logical filtering process of the conscious mind.

In this way, the subconscious accepts reverse speech unchallenged.

I love subliminal recordings! Not only are they very relaxing, but it is an effortless way to begin and stay on a self-improvement program.

You can purchase subliminal recordings on almost any topic. And you can easily play them on your mp3 player or Ipod.

Do you want to make positive changes?

You can listen to subliminal hypnosis recordings any time of the day or night to reprogram your subconscious on order to achieve your goals.

Warning!

NEVER listen to a subliminal or hypnotic tape when you are driving or operating machinery.

Because these recordings are very relaxing, there is a danger of falling asleep and having an accident.

You can find more information about subliminal recordings on my website: http://www.achieve-with-hypnosis.com

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